The past few weeks have been really busy, chaotic, and stress inducing. My husband and I renewed our vows on April 12th and celebrated our sixth year anniversary! Six years...I can't believe it's been that long. We've been together 11 years...oh, my gosh I just typed 11 years! It's so unfathomable that we've made it through this long. I know the statistics, I know that nowadays most couples don't make it, but you know what...we did and we did it our way. A long time ago, back when we first got together, most of my family said our relationship would never work. We were too young, we hadn't had enough life experience yet, and on and on. We made it and I wouldn't change one bit of the last 11 years (there's that number again). It has been an exhilarating, stressful, sometimes ultimately terrifying time, and our relationship is stronger because of it. I've developed a list of advice for those who care to take a moment.
Cass's List of Relationship Advice
- Always be honest with each other, even if the truth hurts or is damaging. Everything can be worked out as long as you are honest with each other.
- Support one another in everything and don't be afraid to admit you might need help.
- Work on things together, for there is no job too large for two people to handle.
- Tell each other "I love you" even if you think they already know it, you can never say "I love you" too much.
- Never fight angry because you will never resolve anything...table the issue and come back to it the next day.
- Make sure the person you decide to spend the rest of your life with is someone you enjoy. My husband is my best friend, he knows me better than anyone on this earth and I wouldn't have it any other way. We can talk about anything or nothing and be completely content.
- You have to have at least one thing you like to do on your own. Spending every minute of everyday doing the same things together will put unnecessary stressors on the relationship. I like to sew, my husband likes to hunt. Each person in a relationship needs at least one thing they like to do on their own, otherwise the relationship can reach a breaking point. As much as I love my husband, there are times I need a break, and the same works for him.
- Always kiss each other goodbye, even if it's only a quick trip down to the store. Life can be cruel sometimes and you never know if or when you will get another chance.
- Set aside some time for the two of you to just talk. Talk about your day, nature, or something that really interests you.
- Plan outings for just the two of you. Go to a museum, the zoo, the park, or maybe an outdoor play.
- Pick your battles wisely. Marriage and relationships are about compromise, you have to be willing to give a little. It's a two way street...both sides have to compromise equally.
- My ultimate advice would be this...Marriage takes work. It doesn't just happen and it doesn't survive on it's own. Marriage is like an infant...it needs nourishing, safety, protection, and love. Protect your marriage or relationship with the fierceness of a tiger and you just might have a chance to make it last your entire life.
The vow renewal turned out beautifully! When we first got married we didn't have a ceremony so this was our ceremony for all of our family and friends. We had a couple of hiccups, mainly with the DJ, where I ended up completely breaking down with the last one, and my family told me it was now just like a real wedding after they had calmed me down enough so that I could breathe. I couldn't help but giggle at that. The reception turned out wonderful and fun, my husband looked so sexy at the ceremony in his suit, and I must say I looked pretty damn good too! My cousin who was my maid of honor looked so beautiful I almost cried. Most of my family was there and all of my husband's family came. My dad walked me down the isle and lost it when we got to the gazebo, which of course almost made me cry! I will post some pictures when I get them back from the photographer.
So now I am taking a little time off by taking today off of work. It's pouring rain buckets outside so it's a good day to just zone out, or blog. Or perhaps I'll go hide in my sewing room. Lord knows I have so many projects in one state of construction or another, and none even close to completion. I remember all the free time I had when I didn't, like, have to work and get one of those job things. Speaking of jobs, mine is still going great! I love working for USA and at NASA! We do so much cool stuff. We just finished up two extremely fast paced, back to back Space Station construction Shuttle flights. The next one is launching the end of this month and I'm working the beginning part of this mission. This mission is taking up the large Japanese bus-sized lab of Kibo. Kibo is the Japanese Aerospace Exploration Agency's contribution to the International Space Station, which has been a long time coming. This dream for the Japanese nation started some twenty years ago, and has only now come to fruition.
Enjoy your day!
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